Sunday, May 11, 2008

Another reason why we were a good choice for quintuplets

I have thought of another thing that helped Rachelle and me to be more prepared for quintuplets. It is our mothers. Both Rachelle and I have great mothers. Rachelle is a really great mother she owes much of that to her mom whom she wrote a tribute to in her blog. Following Rachelle's example, I decided that I would use this post to talk about some of the things my mom did to help me out.

First, my mom, Sylvia Wilkinson, sought to find humor in just about everything. This is something I definitely inherited and it has come in handy many times. Of course, it has also got me into trouble at times because I have been known to laugh at things that probably aren't supposed to be funny. However, for the most part, it has really helped.

Something else she taught me was thriftiness. Growing up, I took great pride in the fact that almost everything we owned came from a garage sale. She taught me from a very early age that you can save a ton of money if you either make it yourself or buy it from a garage sale and fix it up. Most of our furniture came from my mom's (and her siblings) weekly trips to the various garage sales around Denver. Before we were married, Rachelle actually was a little nervous that we wouldn't have anything new because I once made a comment that implied that I thought it would be ridiculous to ever buy a new couch. OK, it wasn't implied so much as directly stated. However, I have since decided that it is some times worth it to buy new things.

Over time, I have learned that the reason my mom got stuff at garage sales was often because the quality (at least the garage sale stuff we found in the 80's) was actually better than what you could typically buy at the store. For example, the furniture we found at garage sales was often made of real wood. Of course, it would some times take hours to scrape away the paint to find the real wood but it was usually down there. From this, I learned that just because something is expensive and looks good on the outside, doesn't mean it is worth anything on the inside. Being good on the inside it 100 times better than looking good on the outside.

On a side note, before Kaiya was born, we wanted to buy Riley a bed that had drawers underneath it. We looked around at a few stores and I kept looking on the inside of everything and found that they were all made of particle board or MDF (not real wood). Stuff made out of particle board is really heavy and breaks easily. I decided that I would be better off just making it myself and we ended up with a solid oak bed that cost the same as the particle board beds (unless you include the cost of the tools I had to buy to make the bed which I don't count).

Another thing that my mom taught me was an appreciation of classic movies (as well as "girl" movies). When I was about 21, she made me sit through the six episode A&E version of Pride and Prejudice. To be completely honest, I found that movie to be one of the funniest movies I have ever seen. Now, you may be wondering how that would prepare me for quintuplets. Well, most of the people that come and volunteer at our house are female. If I only knew about typical guy stuff, it would be rough. However, because I am conversant on things like the Twilight books as well as the Jane Austen movies, it helps me to not be so uncomfortable around so many women.

One final thing that my mom taught me is an appreciation of the absurd. Throughout my life, my mom has involved us with things that are basically absurd. When I was a sophomore in high school, she convinced my sister Alicia and I to dress in chicken costumes to go and perform a rap at a rival high school to help my cousin ask a girl to go to prom with him. This was fairly uncomfortable but I realize now that if you can do something like that, then there is a whole lot of other things you can do such as take intermediate clogging at BYU, do a break dance routine wearing a Star Trek uniform, or enjoy raising quintuplets. By the way, the background design for my mom's crazy Granny blog says a lot about her appreciation for the absurd.

Anyway, these are just some of the things that continue to help me as I deal with the situation we are in and I am grateful for them.

Thanks mom.

Jayson

9 comments:

Megan Of Parker said...

I don't think I ever knew about the chicken rap... But it is true about her humor; Mom never is never too proud to make someone laugh :).

Tobi said...

Awesome tribute Jayson! I love the dancing in the Star Trek Costume!

Joni said...

I'm really laughing that you are conversant on the Twilight books. That really should help! It would help my husband for sure.

Melanie S said...

I wish I could post this on my blog and title it, "Why Jayson is the most fun friend you will ever have." You are so great. It makes me wish we were still hanging out in the Morris Center together. Seriously, though. The Lord could not have picked more perfect parents for those special little miracle babies.

The Queen Vee said...

You have a fabulous mom and yes you are very much like her so that means you are fabulous too. Both you and Rachelle are blessed with extraordinarily good parents and because of that you are able to be good parents. I think that both of your upbringings and your parenting examples have helped to prepare you for where you are right now, the ideal parents for quints +two. I appreciate that you both took the time to honor your mothers.

The Dragonfly said...

I just wanted to throw in a little "I Love You" to my amazing Auntie Sylvia, who managed to turn out four really amazing kids who have made the world a better place to be in! Wilkinsons Rock!

Anna White said...

I was in your mom's seminary class in high school that took place in your basement. I still remember watching movies like "It's a Wonderful Life" and "The Truman Show" and applying them to the Gospel--definitely my favorite seminary class by far.

2 + 2+1 = 5 said...

Jayson,

This has nothing to do with the post...but, I figured you'd be a good person to ask about TX. My family is coming down to San Antonio so my husband can check out a Law School there.

Any suggestion what we can do on the 3 days there (2 adults and 2 crazy 2 year olds)? We are doing Sea World for sure. Where to eat? What else to do?

I figured that Austin is close enough that I could ask you!

Help this fellow Cougars out!

emmabarrus@gmail.com

Crazy Granny said...

Jayson, I don't see anything absurd about wearing a chicken suit while sing a rap tune. I do remember that you and Alicia were a tiny bit embarrassed as you walked through the halls of Pomona High School. Now it's one of the greatest memories I'll ever have. Thanks for putting up with my strange whims.